by Karli Coleman and Mia Boutelle
The following are interviews with FC teachers in regards to love at first sight. If interested in the printed story, pick up a copy of the March issue of the Bagpiper.
Bagpiper: How do you show your love for your significant other?
Government & economics teacher Trent McNeeley: “You know, it’s kind of interesting. Love is definitely something you have to show more than say. Although we do say it a lot, we are a fairly expressive family. It’s really more showing it through the little things: being courteous to one another, being respectful to one another. We’ve argued at times, but neither one of us ever yells at one another; we don’t call each other names, we don’t do anything at all like that. We’re very respectful whenever we try to work stuff out, and I think that’s very important. And we try to do little things for each other. She does a lot more for me than I do for her; she’s a lot more thoughtful than I am and that’s definitely helped.”
NJROTC Senior Chief Michael Beal: “One thing you don’t do is get her [Karen] a card. She used to work at Hallmark, so I can’t do cards. But when I was in the Navy during my first tour, I would write her every day, and she would write me every day. Back then, it was snail mail, and you got your mail from a helicopter because we were out at sea. The helicopter would come and deliver the bag of mail and I would receive 10 letters and everyone else would receive two. I would just write her every day.”
Science teacher Michelle Harbison: “Patience. You listen to them, you spend time with them, you give them their space, you make them a priority, you give them hugs, bring them salad home for dinner sometimes, bring them polar pops when they’re mowing the grass, you go on bike rides with them, you share responsibilities for the house and child rearing, you are a partner.”
English teacher Karen Estus: “I do nice things, you know small things. I call or text throughout the day and tell him that I am thinking about him. Or if I am at the store I’ll pick up something that I know he likes, not anything that’s really expensive, we don’t necessarily do a lot of gifts, but often I’ll just pick up some candy that I know he likes. I just do nice things for him, small things, just being polite and nice and kind and understanding.”
BP: Do you believe in “love at first sight?”
TM: “It’s tricky. I think there is attraction at first sight and that was definitely the case with me. I can still picture her vividly in my brain when I was sitting on a couch in the commons area at Reid Hall and I saw her walk in. She was actually the roommate, while we were there at HSJI, of someone who went to my high school. When she came down, it was just like, ‘Wow.’ I was stunned. There was just something about her that stopped me in my tracks. And so I thought that it was love at first sight, but really looking back on it, it was an attraction. I like to think that love really does come from that respect and caring and getting to know somebody. So, you can have attraction at first sight, but I think love is something that is acquired.”
MB: “I do, because it happened for me.”
MH: “Yeah I think that can happen! I really do. I’ve known that that has happened too. It’s probably something that you’re observing more than you’re attracted to them, it’s interesting, there’s something someone says or does, so yeah I believe in it. I don’t think it happens for everyone, even if it doesn’t happen to you, doesn’t mean you can’t find somebody to love. For those that that happens to, oh lucky them.”
Latin teacher Tim Harbison: “Yes, I can remember seeing [Michelle] in our seventh grade home room and having one of my buddies call her up on the phone and talk to her for me.”
KE: “I don’t necessarily agree with the meaning if you break that down I really don’t think there is such thing as love at first sight. I think you can have that connection with someone, you can be physically attracted to someone. Upon first meeting someone you can realize that you get along and you have a lot in common, but I think love is a deeper emotion than can really be pinpointed to a first sight or a first meeting type of thing.”